Loving. Loyal. Caring. Patient. Selfless. These are all words that have been used to describe mums. But others around you may not use the same adjectives to describe you. Boring is a word that gets thrown about from time to time; normally when you have to decline drinks for the third time in a row.
I’m going to be honest, at one point I would have agreed that becoming a mum makes you boring. My days passed by in a blur of nappy changes, obsessing about growth charts and him putting enough weight on and making sure he was being fed often enough. I was fully immersed in the newborn bubble, worrying about everything from why he wasn’t sleeping to making sure he didn’t overheat. I was so wrapped up in this routine that I didn’t even have time to tell people he had been born until 5 weeks later.
This stage quickly passed and we started to get into a routine so I was able to make the effort with friends again. There were, however, a couple of friendships that felt forced. People that i hadn’t spoken to in over a year because I stopped drinking. That was the only thing we had in common. We went out together and that was it.
Luckily, it wasn’t like this with all friendships. And although the dynamic may have changed slightly, I can still have conversations like I used to before. From the outside it seems that all I do is take photos of my son and talk about him all day long. Which is a fair judgment to make if you look at my Instagram page but social media doesn’t tell the whole story. I’m still the same person I was before I had a baby. I have the same interests, same sense of humour just without drinking so much alcohol. Oh and without a flat stomach.